I’m a serious advocate for modesty, especially modesty in little girls. I’m not “legalistic” in my approach to live or teach modesty to my little girl. I believe the issue of modesty is on a spectrum, from legalistic don’t wear make-or jewelry and only wearing long skirts, etc… to… dressing in a fashion that leaves little to the imagination. I try to remain somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, while ensuring my focus remains on Christ! After all, one day I will stand before the throne and will have to give an answer for the way I chose to live my life and raise my children. For this reason, I’ve made a decision to instill modest values into my little girl’s heart from a very young age (actually from birth).
I recall receiving a baby bikini for a shower gift, while I was pregnant with my Sweet Caroline. I remember the internal struggle that began before my daughter entered into the world. I thanked the individual for the gift, but my little girl never wore that bikini. Why??? It is essential to begin teaching modesty at birth and I never wanted her to say “You let me wear that bikini when I was a baby, I saw it in that picture!” I wanted her to know I took a stance for Jesus toward modest living way before she was born! I never want her to see my values and morals shifting! I wanted her to see a mother who was grounded in her convictions, rooted in her love for God, in her desire to serve and obey the Lord. I want her to remember a mother who was able to take a stand in a constantly changing world! Listed below are a few reasons for my conviction toward modest living, for myself and my daughter!
1.) There are perverts all over and they look at little girls in indecent manners, even if we don’t think they are! All the more reason, I refuse to allow my little girl to be the object of that kind of negative attention.
2.) I am teaching this little girl to value herself for who she is on the inside, not to find her value in her outer appearance!
3.). I’m teaching this little girl that you can dress cute, be cute, and look adorable, while dressing modestly… and fashionably!
4.). I’m teaching her to walk proud and to be proud of who she is and most importantly to always remember “who’s she is”… A child of God!
5.) I want her to one day find a man who will love her for who she is on the inside! A man who will respect her for a commitment to purity!
6.). I desire to protect her in anyway I possibly can, I believe the first step is to ensure she’s dressed modestly in public.
7.) I want her to learn the importance of standing strong, by taking a stand by refusing to succumb to society’s pull toward revealing as much skin as possible.
8.). I want this little girl to positively change the world! Changing the world begins with taking a stand in our personal lives!
9.) I want her to grow up and be proud of the values we’ve instilled into her life! Hopefully, to be proud enough to pass them onto her future children!
10.). Personally, I think she’s one of the prettiest little girls I’ve ever seen! I want her to feel pretty, loved, and cherished because she is a daughter of the King! I never want her to value herself based off of the negative attention that comes from the world, which will only lead her to a life of insecurity and unhappiness!
1 Peter 3:2-3 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.“