An Antidote to A Nation In Trouble; God Has The Answer

The direction of our nation is terrifying! Can’t believe what people are fighting for… America is the home of the free! What will America look like when those fighting with impure motives win the battle? Scary to think about!

What are you fighting for? Be very careful the battles your fighting, you have to live with them! In fact, we all do! Our children’s children have to live with the fallout.

Sadly, the people fighting the wrong battle do not care about the generational fall out, they only care about themselves! What makes “me” happy! And… now!

Friends, we have to stop complaining about the direction our great nation is headed! We have to do something about it. I’m not saying argue with people to change their minds, that WILL NOT work! I’m not saying hand out a gospel track, I’m not saying go to church and come home. Nope, these things will not change the direction our country is headed.

We have to do the hardest thing, but also the most rewarding thing. We have to build relationships with people! We have to renew our heart and focus on Jesus! We have to be in continual prayer and asking God to show us how we can be a vessel for Him!

We have to STOP feeding our souls with “things”, “popularity”, “fame”, “bigger houses and more expensive cars”, “ease of life”, and begin feeding our soul with God’s love and find purpose and fulfillment in serving Jesus! We have to get out of ourselves and into God’s will, fully! Friends, during this time in history we CAN NOT be luke warm Christians! We must be hot, we must be on fire for Jesus!

We have to talk to our neighbors! We have to build relationship with our youth and show them the culture is empty and they are more fulfilled by Jesus and God’s people! Lost people need to see Jesus through us! People need to feel God’s love through us! This is the only thing that will change our nation! If all God’s people all around the world lives out the gospel message, our world would change! As individuals we have access to individual people and this seems small, but they find hope and lead others to hope! I’ve been blessed to see this play out in real life and it is the most rewarding aspect of living for Jesus! Seeing the Hope of Jesus spread!

Sadly, our vote matters very little in today’s society, because the same people fighting for the demise of America are manipulating our right as American’s to vote, by cheating the voting system! It’s scary!

Sooooo…. It’s time to get off your high horse and get out your boats…

Time to do what Jesus tells us and exemplified so perfectly in His word. We are called to be fishers of men! Lead them to Jesus through your actions motivated in Holy love, not through empty words! Words are empty, without purposeful intention behind them!

Let’s face it, we’ve become a selfish people, more so than ever before! And… we are more
more miserable and hopeless than ever before! The suicide rates are unbelievable! The anxiety and depression rates are off the charts! Being selfish, is actually the most miserable way to live! Interesting, but so very true!

Thankful Jesus is on the throne! This is a challenge to me and to you!

We have to save our nation, by getting right with God! It’s going to take an army, God’s army standing to fight! We have to fight a different battle, with different weapons, not the weapons of the world! We need to fight with God’s weapons! “The fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, patience, gentleness and self-control.”

Go make disciples of all men!

Mathew 28: 19-20 “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

2 Corinthians 10: 3-6 “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does.The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete.”



God is Everywhere; He’s Ever-Present in All of Life’s Storms

God speaks in repetition and the message I keep hearing through scripture, the Holy Spirit, and by spiritual mentors and friends… Is, “Bad things happen! Life is hard! God has never promised he would remove the storms, but that He’d walk through every single storm with us!”

God is everywhere… EVERYWHERE! In our homes, offices, at Walmart, on the interstate, in the ICU, He’s everywhere! He never leaves us and never forsakes us.

Friends, please remember this, when you’re facing insurmountable mountains and trials! Trust me, I know this from personal experience! In the scariest and most uncertain places of our lives, Satan will work overtime on our vulnerable hearts and minds. It’s his agenda! He wants to lure us away in our weakened state of suffering, this is when we’re most susceptible and Satan is clever. After all, he tempted Jesus after he had fasted fourty days and nights. He attacked when he knew good and well that Jesus was at His weakest. Thankfully, Jesus is the victor over Satan and drew his strength from His Father in Heaven! Be alert and recognize the enemy’s evil schemes. He ATACKS hardest when we’re at our weakest!

Remember… Satan attacks hardest when we’re … Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, & Sick or Sad. “HALTS!”

When we’re walking through the hardest trials, the one’s we prayed and pleaded for God to remove; the cancer, the loss of a loved one, unemployment, divorce, wayward spouses and children, broken relationships, etc… God is walking right beside us! He’s our strength, comfort, wisdom, and Waymaker.

He is our ever-present help in times of trouble! Psalm 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.” He is mindful of our suffering and our struggles, he genuinely loves and cares about our hearts. Psalm 8:3 & 4 “When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?”

When my sweet little girl was being life-lined to the PICU at All Children’s hospital in critical condition… There was a point when seeing her suffer was entirely more than I could handle. At one point I wanted to run away… my heart couldn’t handle seeing my baby girl so sick. In this moment, I was just plain out honest with God… “God, I can’t stand seeing my baby this sick! I need you to hold me up! Be my strength! Lord, please!” Immediately, a whole new strength and supernatural endurance showed up! I became her strength, encourager, and walked her through the hardest and most frightening moments. This was only possible, because God was holding me up and walking with me through the trial! She doesn’t know about my weak moment, all she knows is I was her safe place and I was taking care of her every need and praying for her fervently! She saw Jesus’s strength through her momma! She saw the prayers and the answered prayers! God is so good!

I hate to be the bearer of bad news…

Friends, life will give you more than you can handle! Time and time again this awful truth will ring true! Life will never give us more than we can handle when we’re clinging to Jesus in the midst of the storms! This is our one true promise and assurance! Our “Blessed Assurance”!

Cling to Him today! He’s got you! He’s got your baby! He’s got your spouse! He’s got all your needs taken care of! He’s right there with you! Always!

Blessings, Crystal

Trauma Changes Us: How a Traumatic Illness Changed Me and My Family Forever

Part I “Trauma Changes Us Forever: How a Series of Traumatic events Changed Me Forever”

True transparency for a moment. Rest assured, I am not sharing my story for sympathy. I’m sharing to reach the heart’s of others who may find themselves on a similar dark, frightening, and taunting journey!

The past 2 years have threatened to take me down more than I care to admit! Especially, the past 4 months have been the traumatic icing on an extremely awful and fearful cake!

Friends, this Christian counselor who continually points people to the Hope of Jesus, found myself struggling at times to find the ability to face the day (afraid of the next attack)!

I showed up at work (most of the time), I tried to be the best wife I could, I tried to love my kiddos the best of my ability! I continued pointing people to Jesus, as much as I could! It was effective for the most part, ( I sure hope it was, my prayer is always that God would fill in the gaps when I’m feeling weak. This is the hard part of ministry, we’re called to be on our game all the time, yet we’re all human and we will never be at our best all the time.).

Something within me, kept me from connecting at the deepest level with God, my husband, my children, my friends, and my clients. I know when I’m at my best and know the way I’m able to connect with people. It wasn’t happening at the same level. It broke my heart, and at times made me question my value and effectiveness as a wife, mother, friend, and counselor. Even as a Child of God! Thankfully, I know how to talk through the negative talk enough to keep going! I don’t think my clients noticed it, at least I hope they didn’t, but I felt it in my spirit! I did my very best for where I was during this trial! It’s all we can do… our best!

Why did this happen to me? Answer… My heart was crushed! I was afraid! I was terrified! There were a series of attacks and when I was feeling overwhelmed beyond my ability to handle the weight of it all, the largest attack came at us completely out of left field. When I realized I needed soul rest, decided to go on vacation to the beach, and upon landing in Florida my little girl immediately became gravely sick.

For five days I took care of her and worked with every ounce of my being to help her get better. Sleepless nights worrying about 104 fevers that seemed impossible to maintain and several other symptoms. Three trips to the ER with poor care and inaccurate diagnosis. Two urgent care trips. Three virtual appointments, this all took place in a 5 day period. This doesn’t count the doctor and nurse friends I reached out to for guidance. For five days her body was quickly dwindling and no one could tell me what was wrong. This was traumatic in and of itself. Then the final and correct diagnosis occurred on the fifth day when I took her to the best hospital in the area and risked being charged, as it was out of network. When it comes to saving your children, money is no longer an issue! They diagnosed her with MIS-C (Multi-System Inflammatory Syndrome in Children). A life-treating condition that comes on about 4 weeks after Covid and causes the bodies antibodies to go crazy and frantically begins attacking the organs. They said she was in critical condition and that you’re little girl is very sick. You brought her in at the right time! We need to work quickly to get her stablelized and get her to St. Petersburg’s, John Hopkins All Children’s Hospital. They sent a lifeline to transport her and that was the longest and scariest trip of our lives! This is where our lives went into survival mode and sensual overload became overwhelming to our brain’s ability to properly file away memories, input, sounds, thoughts, information, and unanswered questions. Caroline and I both developed PTSD due to this near death and extrmeLy scary situation. In part II, I will explain more about the journey with MIS-C and how the trauma revealed it’s head upon returning home.

Friends, during this 4 months time frame it seriously felt like I was living out a real life game of Wack-A-Mole! Every time I’d feel a little bit stronger, another attack would crush me right back into my brokenness! Every time I felt I was coming to grip with the status wiping her condition and starting to find peace, the phone would ring informing of another concerning blood test result. I was on high alert for several months, watching every symptom to ensure she would be safe and healthy. At times her heart rate accelerated for no reason and got to the 180’s without exercise being the cause. It was a scary time! Praise the Lord her body is returning to a more normal state, her emotional well-being will take some more time! Although, she’s made great strides in this area by talking to me, her dad, her brothers, her counselor, and her art work! I couldn’t keep up and my stomach couldn’t either.

Stomach issues became a real issue, tension, headaches, sleepless nights, nightmares, and I even had a few clients who during my trial acted in ways that made it feel like they were stabbing a knife right into the deepest places of my heart. Of course, I can’t tell the circumstances, but just know that ministry doesn’t come without its own share of heartache, pain, and frustration. Especially, when the counselor has endured their own trauma. Usually, I’m more equipped and confident to handle these situations. At this time, I was barely hanging in and the attacks were overwhelming. When you are a counselor who truly cares for your clients, it opens you up to great potential for hurt. Therefore, many counselors remain emotionally absent and completely neutral, it’s “safer” this way, but it doesn’t produce the path to healing. Love is the only avenue to healing! I am so thankful that the majority of my clients were so very caring and chill throughout the process. They were patient when I had to cancel for Caroline’s doctor’s appointments, or had to take important calls from the hospital during a session (which I never do), or I messed up my schedule and botched up appointment times. So thankful for this blessing during this trial in my life!

My heart has faced so many of Satan’s attacks at such an accelerated rate, that there were times I thought to myself “I want to stay in bed all day, bad things happen out there!” I knew this was the epitome of living in fear! I’ve seen how this impacts my clients and I didn’t want to go to this dark of a place. I knew that he key was never giving up! I kept fighting!

Thankfully, during these intense attacks, I knew that succumbing to the defeating voices of Satan would only destroy me. After all, God says “Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy!” Even on the hardest days, I forced myself to get up and face the world! I’d always read at least a little scripture and listened to a lot worship music, even though to be perfectly honest, I couldn’t feel it! At least not like I’m accustomed to. This was the most terrifying aspect of the experience. Why? God has been my firm assurance throughout life and Jesus my one true hope, wisdom provider, almighty counselor, and hope! Not feeling in connection fully with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, created the most noice and discomfort in my soul. It wasn’t God, it was my trauma, my fear, my struggle! Trauma does this!

Something inside of me threatened to shut off all emotions and connections! It was in these moments I developed a greater understanding, compassion, and empathy for how Satan can cause us to spiral downward fast! I’ve always been sensitive to this, but living through it has a way of bringing more and more empathy and love to others in pain!

In part II, I will continue sharing our healing journey through the illness, the traumatic impact, and how I’ve been able to work through the journey. Check it out!

Love you all!



Blessings In The Midst of Raging Storms

“Blessings in the Midst of The Raging Storms”

It is so easy to take for granted the MOST precious gifts of life! Sitting in this airplane flying away from my family, I ponder how very blessed I am! In fact, I am reminded in the quietness with God the abounding and overwhelming blessings He’s bestowed upon my life! God is near, even when we feel alone!

Listening to our wedding song “I Will Be Here”, I’m reminded of my amazing & Godly husband! He loves and cherishes me! Leaving him is never easy, but the time apart is always a reminder of the depth of our love! Absence truly makes the heart grow fonder! He is patient in many ways and has never tried to guilt or manipulate me for personal gain. He’s always put my needs above his own, this was evident even in our dating days. He never pressured me and has always supported me! He is an amazing father! He always listens to, provides for, challenges, and supports our children in their dreams and endeavors! He is the Godly man I prayed for as a child. I am ever so grateful!

Leaving my children never gets easier. When they were babies, I thought it would be easier to leave when they were older and more independent. Nope, leaving them ALWAYS feels like I’m leaving my heart behind. Man, these amazing people God gifted us… I am blessed! They are kind, loving, silly, respectful, considerate, and they all have a desire to be the best version of themself! The best part is that they love me and forgive me when I’m human! These four keep me laughing all the time, even when life feels overwhelming and difficult.

My family is a gift! They can drive me crazy at times, that’s a part of life! I even love the “crazy times”… because these are the growth moments that draw us closer together. I know this is God’s plan, to have a place on Earth where you feel safe and loved for who you are. I didn’t grow up with this gift and know the fear, heartache, loneliness, and miserableness of a lack of love and security in a home. I made a decision to follow God whole-heartedly and do everything in my power to ensure my children grew up in a home of love, stability, and security. Obedience to God and continually searching our hearts offers us the most rewarding gifts Earth has to offer!

Sure, I tell them everyday that I love them and often how proud of them I am, but do I tell them they make my world a better place? As this airplane flies to the other side of America, I am reminded of the amazing gifts God has given me! My husband and children absolutely make my world a better place! I need to tell them this more often! They’re the sunshine that I love to come home to after a long day! They’re the reason for the tears that spill from my eyes every time I leave them behind for a trip! Life is hard! The past several years have brought one trial after another, God has been faithful through the storms. The storms are scary, God has never left our side! He’s given the blessing of family and friends to hold us, cry with us, pray for us, support us, and make us laugh in the trials! My heart is full of gratitude for the answered prayers and presence of God in my life!

Friends, when life is hard, Satan works overtime in our minds! He wants us to be so caught up in the fear of the storms, that we’re unable to see God at work in our lives! In fact, he convinces us that God has forgotten us, that he’s not present, that we’re alone, that our trials will never end. It’s not true! Today was a reminder of God’s goodness, even when the storms have been raging! The goal of our life is to live victoriously, not perfectly, or without pain! Live victoriously through Christ! Blessings, Crystal

Choosing Faith Over Fear

My heart is breaking today for a fellow mother of a child enduring the MIS-C nightmare, not once but now a second time. This is every parent and child with MIS-C’s worse nightmare. That MIS-C may reoccur and to see the data being made in real life is unsettling! It is a relatively new condition and there is little information to provide answers. Being the pioneers for this illness is terrifying. Thankfully, we now have a support group to pray for, encourage and help each other through the hard times, and to celebrate healing and victories!

I know all of us parents have asked the infectious disease, rheumatology, and specialists doctors this question about 100 times throughout the duration of the journey! “Can my child get MIS-C again?”

As time passes the data “our very own children’s health occurrences” are filling in the blanks. Friends, this is terrifying! I am not going to lie! I DO NOT like it and absolutely wish my Sweet Caroline didn’t have to be a part of the MIS-C club. We are now a part of the club, wishing we weren’t, living in denial and fear, and throwing tantrums is not going to help! Trust me, I’ve cried so many tears, felt my heart would beat in angst right outside of my chest, and I’ve wrestled with God about “why”? The only thing that has kept me sane throughout this entire process is God!

God loves His children and longs for our souls to be quieted in His presence. Once calmed, I remember to ask myself…

What are my choices? I ask my clients this all the time… It’s the best question to ask ourselves when facing insurmountable trials.

1.). I can be crazy scared, act frivolously, and move into absolute “control” mode.

Admittedly, more times than I can count… I’ve had the thought to run to the school and pull her out to homeschool her. Thankfully, I calmed down quickly and turned my fear into prayer! God reminded me that “our” little girl is relational and is so happy at her school, she loves her friends, and being in school is good for her spirit. I calmed down and didn’t run to the school and demand to bring her home to her momma bear! Lol! I remembered to check my fear at the cross.

2.) I can take my fear and anxiety to God.

This calms me and grounds my fearful heart. In His presence I learn that I can exercise caution and be careful with her care and symptoms. This is a much better option!

I’m God’s presence he continually leads my wandering and fearful heart back to option 2. Therefore, I’m not acting in hysterics, fear, and attempting to control everything and everyone around me!

Covid is REAL! It is directly impacting each of our lives! It is hitting close to home in more and more families. If I had a magic wand… I’d wave it around and wish away all the brokenness due to this Covid pandemic. I don’t have this ability and neither do you… Even our finest doctor’s still have limited information. I have something better and so do you… FAITH! Faith in a God who is in control! Lean into Him with your fears and concerns! He is walking through this pandemic with us and has a purpose for all our pain. He will redeem this and return what has been taken from us in His time… He will redeem!

Since the start of this Covid pandemic we have all been faced with the absolute uncertainty and vulnerability of being a human! We are not immortal, contrary to what we like to think and convince ourselves! We are mortal beings with a beginning and end! Not a single one of us knows our final day. None of us know the outcomes, if there will be answers, or if the virus will ever be contained. God knows! He will use this, ALL of it for good! It breaks his heart to see His children suffering! This I know! He is near the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Some of us have experienced nothing more than a bad cold! Some of us have faced near death experiences that have woken us up to what is important. Some of us have witnessed our children face near death experiences. Sadly, many of us have lost loved ones during this pandemic. Shockingly, there are still some who say it’s nothing more than a “flu”. Everyone of us has been impacted by Covid-19, either directly or indirectly. It’s heart breaking, frightening, and comes with much uncertainty!

There are many things we don’t have control over… The pandemic is one! And… how others respond in the midst of the pandemic is another.

There is one thing we have control over… How we respond to the pandemic? What do you choose?

1) Be crazy scared, frantic, and attempt to control everything around you… All in an attempt to quiet your own fears.

2). Take your fear to God and allow Him to lead, guide, direct, and comfort you during a difficult time. Allow God to quiet the noise in your soul and calm, comfort, and ground your spirit.

The choice is yours. I choose… 2!

Over and over again I run back to option 2, it is the ONLY THING that calms my spirit!

Today, I’m praying for God’s mercy, wisdom, and healing over this pandemic! I’m praying for the individuals and families impacted by Covid! I am praying for all children and parents whose lives have been turned upside down due to MIS-C. I’m praying for my very own Sweet Caroline!

Please join me in choosing option 2. Let’s flood heaven with fervent prayers for healing!

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6 & 7

Blessings, Crystal

Finding Joy In The Trials

This little girl is getting her heart checked to ensure it’s healthy and doing well since the MIS-C diagnosis. She’s a trooper! She’s happy, confident, joyful, and tough!

Right before having her heart tests, she asked me if she could have some of my coffee. I’m like … “Ummm.. no!” Caffeine before heart tests is not a good mix! Lol! Doc be like “Why is her heart beating so fast???” We sure had a good laugh! Haha! Finding joy in the trials! I sure love this huge smile! She’s come so far since the day in the hospital, 3 weeks ago, when she was lifelined to All Children’s in St. Petersburg, FL! Thankful for God’s provisions!

Friends, if your world looks dark, depressing, painful, and overwhelming today… Borrow my hope for awhile, joy is around the corner! Joy may look different than it was before, but we grow through hardship!

James 1:2-6 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”



Conflict is What’s Making This Global Pandemic Unbearable

All this hatred and discord over masks vs. no masks, vaccines vs. no vaccines, makes my heart sick! To be completely honest it increases my anxiety and I know for a fact that I’m not alone! People are being pushy, judgmental and lacking understanding & empathy. Everyone operating at these extremes is making this pandemic more uncomfortable, upsetting, challenging, and frightening!

We are all in this together! But, we’re acting like our friends, neighbor’s, and even family members are our enemies!

Wake up call…

To all the people pushing tooth and nail masks and vaccines to the point of stirring anger and bitterness… there’s still so many unknowns! The data is showing that the vaccines aren’t the complete answer to our suffering! I’m not saying we shouldn’t get the vaccine, I’m saying “WE DON’T KNOW… NOBODY DOES! Even the best of the best medical doctors and biologists are still trying to figure out Covid.

Wake Up Call…

To those acting like this pandemic is just another flu, my daughter almost died from a rare condition caused by Covid, MIS-C. Don’t think for a minute I haven’t endured fear over whether she can get this condition again, the top doctor’s DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT have enough data to answer that question. I have found myself at times feeling tightness in my chest over what our future has in store over this Covid “hell” we’ve all been living! I have decided to trust God and trust that He holds the future. He knows the answers to the questions regarding the future. He holds our tomorrow! I’ve come to realize that if I allow this fear to be my primary focus it will continue to scare the living daylights out of me. My living in fear is not going to help my daughter, my children, myself, my marriage, my relationships, or the people around me! In fact, fear will hurt myself and my relationships!

I choose to spend my time loving and leading people to the hope of Jesus! I choose to pray fervently and heed the Holy Spirit for answers.
I choose to seek the Holy Spirit for guidance over masks, vaccines, and how to live wisely in the midst of this global pandemic.

I refuse to control what I don’t understand!

This pandemic is real and there are so many unknowns! Let’s all stop acting like we know everything cause we DO NOT!!! During this time of uncertainty and tremendous unknowns, I know a few things are absolutely certain…

1.) We all NEED Jesus and God is in control!

2.) We NEED each other to ensure that during this time of tribulation and difficulty that we come out stronger, still standing, and mentally and physically put together!

3.) We NEED to pray for others and not judge, ridicule, or slander!

4.). We NEED to ensure our eternal lives are secure and work to love others to Jesus. We need to do our part to be sure we all make it to Heaven together! We can’t do this when being unkind and judgmental!

5.) We NEED to allow this time of uncertainty to build our empathy and compassion!

6.) We NEED to trust God!

We’re all suffering and hurting! Please STOP causing unnecessary hurt and suffering! It’s not helping and we all know it! Trust me, as a counselor I hear the hearts of people and everyone is afraid of the pandemic, even those who say their not. We’re all fearful on some level, because it’s impacting us all!

“For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21:4

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12

Blessings, Crystal

What is the Answer to The Chaos of our Culture? Love!

I was just thinking this morning about how broken hearted my sweet & Godly great-grandmother would be if she knew all the things going on in our present day culture!

Our culture has spiraled out of control in the past 20 years. My heart aches tremendously! God knows all and has a plan and purpose even in this chaos.

Rise up Christians, we can not be complacent!

We need to live and love for Jesus! We need to be wise, vigilant, and STOP living in denial! We need to use our energy and all our resources and begin fighting the evil schemes of Satan, by loving people to Jesus! Not “shaming” them or judging them… not trying to change their vote, lifestyle, or choices.

When we love people to Jesus… Guess what happens? God changes their desires, choices, votes, and lives! It’s God’s job, not ours! This is the only way to change the condition of our world! People are looking for hope and are desperately longing to figure out how to fill their God-sized hole! Only Jesus can fill our God-sized hole and only Jesus can complete and fulfill us!

John 4:13 & 14 “Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

What is our job? What can we Christ followers do to make a difference in our broken world? Love people to Jesus! That’s all Jesus asks us, not to change them. As a counselor
I’ve encountered my share of overwhelming days and feel inept to make a difference in the midst of heartache and pain. On these difficult days the Lord has said to me… “Can you just love them? It’s not your job to change them, but to love them! I am their Savior and I am the only Savior they need.” Yes, Lord, I can love them! Love them to Jesus! It’s our calling as disciples of Christ!

Mathew 28:19-20 “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

People are leaving the faith because instead of loving well, (c)hristian people are judging, being indirect and passive aggressive out of pride, fear, and insecurity. Christians, we’re the ones making Jesus look bad. In the name of “Jesus” we’ve been the exact opposite of what Jesus looks like. We’ve made Jesus look insensitive, insecure, mean, heartless, judgy, unfriendly, unkind, impossible to please, and everything He’s not. We MUST stop acting like we have the power to change people… We DO NOT! Only The Lord has that kind of power. Time to recognize our prideful hearts and learn how to love like Jesus!

What power do we have? The ability to love Jesus completely, grow in our own relationship with Jesus Christ, love others as ourselves, build healthy connection, and always be ready to tell the Good News!

Mathew 22:34-40 “Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Friends, I am so thankful to be walking this spiritual journey with you! Serving God and living for Him is the greatest calling on Earth!



Parenting Teenagers & Managing Technology In Our Families

Raising children in our present cultural is tough! As a counselor, I hear stories and my heart aches at the condition of our world! Parents, pay attention! DO NOT ignore your gut! Listen to that still small voice inside! Pray! Pray! Pray! Have accountability on all phones and computers. DO NOT allow children and teens to use technology in their rooms and have a room where technology is supposed to be used openly! Children and teens should not… SHOULD NOT have privacy on their cell phones and computers! In fact, adults shouldn’t have privacy on cell phones, we’re all prone to temptation! We all need accountability! Family wide computer/cell phone filters are essential! We are not above being lured by Satan’s evil schemes! Satan is working hard to pull our children away from love, grace, truth and lead them into darkness! Our children need us on our toes! We have to be intentional and proactive in our parenting! We have to pay attention! Our kids need us!!! They need us to continually point them to Jesus, hold them accountable, and love them unconditionally! Most importantly our children need us to love them unconditionally! #myheartthisevening #parenting

Happy 21st Anniversary to my Best Friend and Soul Mate

We’ve raised 4 amazing kiddos together! You earned a bachelors degree and a PhD from Indiana University! I’ve earned a bachelor’s degree and an M.A. and became a counselor… we did this all together! We’ve explored the world together! We’ve had amazing moments of success, tremendous joy and faced tremendous sorrow… together! You’ve stood by me through thick and thin! You’re definitely my better half! God knew we needed each other to face the joys and tribulations that we’d face in our lives!

Happy 21st Anniversary, to my best friend!

I love you!

Here’s to a lifetime of memories still to be made… together!

Robert Ridlon, I love and admire you more each year!